My friend is talking about suicide

I want to help.

You’re already taking the first step – seeking out information and support for your friend. Chances are your friend is feeling very sad and lonely. Maybe they’ve been bullied or harassed by their peers, or something traumatic has happened in their life. In many cases, suicidal people do not actually want to die – they are calling out for help, and are feeling like there is no hope. What’s important is that they get help immediately.

Here are some things that you, as a friend, can do:

  • Ask your friend about how they’re feeling. This will help you begin the conversation.
  • Ask them direct questions like “Are you considering suicide?” Try to find out specific details of what they are thinking. Take their answers seriously.
  • Be a supportive listener. Don’t make your friend feel like they are being silly or dramatic. Tell them that it’s okay to feel the way they do. Don’t act shocked or joke around with them about it – these are serious feelings.
  • Offer your friend help. Make sure they know you care about them, and want to help them. Be there to listen, support and encourage them to get the help they need. You can’t fix their life or solve their problems – they may need the help of a trained professional.
  • Identify people your friend can talk to – like a parent, counsellor, doctor or another trusted adult – and help them connect with this person. If they don’t want to get help for themselves, get it for them. Tell someone you can trust. Make sure an adult knows what’s going on and either helps your friend or gets your friend the help he/she needs.
  • Call a Crisis Centre. They give support and information to people who need help, as well as to friends and family. Any suicidal person needs the help of a professional, and crisis centres can help give that person the right information and resources.
  • Never promise to keep their plan for suicide a secret. Never dare a person, or tell them you don’t believe them.
  • Never leave a high-risk person alone, without making sure they have help from an adult trained to work with people at risk for suicide.

Content adapted from www.crisiscentre.bc.ca/get-help/understanding-and-recognizing-suicide/#responding

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If you are having thoughts of suicide or of hurting yourself or others, please reach out immediately for help. Call 9-1-1 (or your local police or authority, if you do not have 9-1-1) or go to your nearest hospital emergency room.

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